Some life advice sounds good, but it can ruin your life. Every day you're inundated with advice. If I may be so bold, just offer some No matter where you look, someone's busy telling you what to do.
有些人生建议听起来不错，但可能会毁了你的人生。每天你都被各种建议淹没。恕我冒昧，只是提供一些 无论你看向哪里，都有人在忙着告诉你该怎么做。
Buy this right now. Stop buying random stuff. Always wear shoes when you're in a thumbtack factory. I was a homeless teen in Mumbai. Became a monk in training. Somehow ended up at MIT.
现在就买这个。别再乱买东西了。在图钉厂里一定要穿鞋。我曾在孟买无家可归，是个流浪少年。后来成为了一名修行中的僧侣。不知怎么的，最终来到了麻省理工学院。
then on Wall Street was a musician eventually becoming a tech CEO and I wish I had learned some of these lessons earlier. Today we will expose the hidden traps in six pieces of advice that every ambitious person will get because each one is only half true.
然后在华尔街是一名音乐家最终成为科技公司首席执行官我希望自己能早点学到这些经验教训。今天我们将揭露六条建议中的隐藏陷阱每个有抱负的人都会得到这些建议因为每一条都只对了一半。
Will uncover that missing half before advice that sounds right leads you to a wrong decision. And the last one might be the hardest one to let go of. The first life advice you hear a lot.
将在建议之前揭示缺失的另一半那些听起来正确的建议会让你做出错误的决定。而最后一个可能是最难放下的。你经常听到的第一条人生建议。
Never give up. I never give up. Never give up. Never. Never give up. But sometimes that's exactly what you should do. Give up. A company called Tiny Spec released an online game called Glitch.
永不放弃。我从不放弃。永不放弃。绝不。永不放弃。但有时候，这正是你应该做的。放弃吧。一家名为Tiny Spec的公司发布了一款名为Glitch的网络游戏。
In 2012, the CEO said, "We have to shut down the game because in a few months, they were going to burn through the remaining cash they had left." And all 40 employees were asked to give up on their dream.
2012年，首席执行官说：“我们不得不关闭这款游戏，因为再过几个月，他们就会耗尽剩下的所有现金。”所有40名员工都被要求放弃他们的梦想。
But to build that game, the team had put together an internal tool to message each other, share files, and after Glitch died, that side project slowly became the main product of the company.
但为了打造那款游戏，团队搭建了一个内部工具用来互相发消息、共享文件，而在Glitch倒闭后，那个副业项目慢慢变成了公司的主打产品。
We all know that company now, Slack. Salesforce bought Slack for almost $28 billion. Sometimes they give up on one thing and gain something far more valuable. Of course, we've all heard the opposite stories, right?
我们现在都知道那家公司了，Slack。Salesforce以近280亿美元收购了Slack。有时他们放弃一件事却获得了珍贵得多的东西。当然，我们都听过相反的故事，对吧？
People who kept marching forward when everybody told them to stop and then great success. So, which one is true? Both? Neither. The problem is that persistence and stubbornness look almost identical while you're inside them.
那些坚持前行的人当所有人都叫他们停下时最终取得了巨大的成功。那么，哪一个是真的？两个都是？都不是。问题在于，坚持和固执看起来几乎一模一样当你身处其中的时候。
Persistence wants you to continue when the destination still makes sense. Stubbornness continues regardless. That's where your judgment comes into play. We've all had that job that drags you down or that relationship that feels like a burden.
坚持希望你继续下去当目标仍然有意义时。固执则不顾一切地继续。这就是你的判断力发挥作用的地方。我们都做过那种让你疲惫不堪的工作或者经历过那种让你感到不堪重负的感情。
And how do you know what to do? You can apply what I call the three cost framework. First, the future cost. What would it take to make this current situation better? Do you know what needs to change?
那你怎么知道该怎么做呢？你可以应用我所说的三种成本框架。第一，未来成本。怎样才能让当前的情况变得更好？你知道需要改变什么吗？
and is that change actually possible? Second, the sunk cost. Are you staying because it is worth continuing or because you've already invested so much. Starting over is difficult, but difficulty and damage aren't the same things.
而那改变真的可能吗？其次，沉没成本。你留下来是因为它值得继续还是因为你已经投入了太多。重新开始很难，但困难和伤害不是一回事。
Leaving is more difficult, but staying may cause you more damage. Third, the opportunity cost. What are you giving up by staying? What else could you build with all that time and money and attention and your emotional energy?
离开更难，但留下来可能会给你带来更多伤害。第三，机会成本。你留下来放弃了什么？你还能用所有那些时间、金钱、注意力和情感精力去构建什么？
Never give up is good advice when the struggle is worth it. It's terrible advice when staying in means giving up on something that matters more. Now, here's the second life advice that you should definitely ignore.
当奋斗值得时，永不放弃是好的建议。这是个糟糕的建议当坚持意味着放弃某件事时那更重要。现在，这是第二条人生建议你绝对应该忽略的。
Just look out for yourself. You have to rely on yourself. Look out for number one, kid, cuz no one else will. That advice is bad for you, your career, and your business. There were two friends in Los Angeles, two young actors.
只管照顾好你自己。你必须依靠你自己。照顾好你自己，孩子，因为没人会替你着想。那个建议对你、你的事业和你的生意都不好。洛杉矶有两个朋友，两个年轻演员。
They were trying to make it in Hollywood, and they were so broke that they decided to share a bank account. So when one of them got paid, it kept both of them going. I am talking about Matt Damon and Ben Affleck, of course.
他们试图在好莱坞闯出一片天地，他们穷得叮当响，于是决定共用一个银行账户。所以当他们中的一个拿到报酬时，就支撑着两个人继续下去。当然，我说的是马特·达蒙和本·阿弗莱克。
Eventually they wrote a phenomenal movie Goodwill Hunting. They won the Oscar. Both of them became mega stars. One played Jason Bourne. The other played Batman. I think today they can afford their own bank accounts.
最终他们写出了一部非凡的电影《心灵捕手》。他们赢得了奥斯卡奖。他们两人都成为了超级巨星。其中一人扮演了杰森·伯恩。另一个演过蝙蝠侠。我觉得如今他们能自己开银行账户了。
But this is the part we often miss. Some situations in life are zero sum games. The 100 meter race, a tennis match, a game of football. In all those situations, one person's win means another person's loss.
但这正是我们常忽略的部分。生活中的某些情况是零和博弈。百米赛跑、网球比赛、足球比赛。在所有这些情况下，一个人的胜利意味着另一个人的失败。
But life is not like that. You have to understand the game you're actually playing. Sure, if you interview and you don't get a job, someone else won. You lost. But if you stay in touch with the folks at the company and find ways to continue to help them, the relationships you build can create opportunities later.
但生活并非如此。你必须理解你实际参与的游戏。当然，如果你面试后没得到工作，那就是别人赢了。你输了。但如果你和公司里的人保持联系并设法继续帮助他们，你建立的人际关系日后能为你创造机会。
Regardless, your success becomes possible because some people decide to take a chance on you, invest in you, to grow you. Now, this doesn't mean that you should help someone while secretly keeping score and expecting the same from them because that can turn any trusted relationship into a transaction.
无论如何，你的成功之所以成为可能是因为有些人决定给你一个机会，在你身上投入，让你成长。现在，这并不意味着你应该帮助别人同时却在暗地里记着账并期望对方也给予同样的回报因为那会把任何一段信任关系变成一笔交易。
I learned a more painful version of this when I was leaving for my first seale job. I sat down with one of my VPs and I told him that I was leaving and I asked him, "What should I do differently in my next role?"
我经历过这件事更痛苦的一种版本那是在我准备去从事第一份航海工作时。我和我的一位副总裁坐下来，告诉他我要离开了然后我问他，“在我的下一个职位上，我应该做出哪些改变？”
And he kind of looked straight. He paused and suddenly he got tearyeyed and he "You're going to be a great leader." I just wish you had invested more time in me. And man, that story still haunts me because he was right.
他有点直视着我。他停顿了一下，突然眼眶湿润了他说：“你会成为一名出色的领导者。”我只是希望你能在我身上投入更多时间。天哪，这个故事至今萦绕在我心头，因为他说得对。
I had been thinking so much about the leader I wanted to become in the future that I had missed becoming one in the present. I was busy showing off instead of really showing up. Next time you feel like you are competing against someone, step back and ask yourself, am I in a zero sum game?
我一直过多地思考未来我想成为的领导者，以至于忽略了在当下成为那样的人。我忙于炫耀，而不是真正地展现自己。下次当你觉得自己在和某人竞争时，退后一步，问问自己，我是不是在玩零和游戏？
Others don't have to lose for you to win. Looking out for others can be one of the best ways to look out for yourself. Every millionaire, every celebrity, and every graduation speaker says the same thing.
别人不必失败，你才能成功。照顾他人可能是最好的方式之一来照顾自己。每一位百万富翁，每一位名人，以及每一位毕业演讲者都说着同样的话。
There is no reason not to follow your heart. Follow your passion. Follow your Follow your passion. You should ignore it. During World War II, a woman worked in an American intelligence unit, and she spent much of her career as an assistant typing top secret memos for the military.
没有理由不追随你的内心。追随你的热情。追随你的追随你的热情。你应该忽略它。第二次世界大战期间，一名女子在美国情报部门工作，她职业生涯的大部分时间都在担任助理，为军方打字录入绝密备忘录。
And somehow she found her way to Paris and out of sheer curiosity she started attending French cooking classes. That one accidental choice unlocked a passion that transformed her completely.
不知何故她来到了巴黎，出于纯粹的好奇心，她开始参加法式烹饪课程。那一次偶然的选择开启了一份热情彻底改变了她。
Her name was Julia Child. Her cookbooks still inspire millions to this day. So you see the path to passion is not a straight line. Your dream job might involve something you haven't learned to love yet.
她的名字是朱莉娅·查尔德。她的食谱至今仍激励着数百万人。所以你看，通往热情的道路并不是一条直线。你的理想工作可能涉及一些你还没有学会去热爱的事情。
How do you know you love something if you never done it before? So, start with something you're curious about. Give yourself time to get better at it and then see. The second question here is equally intriguing.
如果一件事你从未做过，你怎么知道自己热爱它呢？所以，从你好奇的事情开始。给自己时间去变得更好，然后再看。这里的第二个问题同样引人入胜。
Can you actually make a living from your passion? You can love something and become exceptionally good at it, but that doesn't mean that enough people will pay you enough money to build your passion into a full-time job.
你真的能靠自己的热爱谋生吗？你可以热爱某件事，并变得极其擅长，但这并不意味着会有足够多的人愿意付给你足够多的钱让你把热爱变成一份全职工作。
Los Angeles is full of bartenders who come there to become actors and actresses. I'm sure Mumbai or New York City are no different. Some passions are just lottery tickets. Unless you're super lucky, your passion alone can't be your business model.
洛杉矶到处都是调酒师，他们来那里是为了成为演员。我相信孟买或纽约市也没什么不同。有些热爱就像彩票。除非你超级幸运，否则仅凭热爱无法成为你的商业模式。
And the third and final question you should ask, will you still love it when your livelihood depends on it? You know, when I started this channel, this was the first point in my first ever video that I made because I had lived it.
而你应该问的第三个也是最后一个问题是，当你的生计依赖它时，你还会热爱它吗？你知道，当我开始做这个频道时，这是我第一个视频里的第一个要点，我之所以做这个，是因为我亲身经历过。
I was a musician for years, but trying to make a living was always incredibly stressful. When my passion had to be the main source of my income, it literally changed my relationship with it.
我当了多年音乐家，但试图以此谋生总是压力巨大。当我的热爱不得不成为我主要的收入来源时，它真的改变了我与它的关系。
Now, that happened to me. Your case and your story might be totally different. But before you give up on your banking job to start baking, answer those three questions. First, actually do the work for a long time or long enough to see whether you can actually become good at it.
现在，这发生在了我身上。你的情况和你的事情可能完全不同。但在你放弃银行工作去开始烘焙之前，先回答这三个问题。第一，真正长期地去做这项工作，或者做足够久，以看清你是否真的能擅长它。
Second, ask someone earning a living in that field what it actually takes to make the numbers work. And third, see if you want to do it again and again when you're livelihood depends on it.
第二，问问那个领域里靠它谋生的人，要让数字算得过来究竟需要什么。第三，看看你是否还想再做一次以及当你的生计取决于此时，你是否还想再做一次。
And that is the missing half of that generic advice. Some passions may become your living and some may make your life worth living. And by the way, if you enjoy ideas like these, please subscribe to my free newsletter every Tuesday.
而这正是那条通用建议所缺失的一半。有些热爱可能成为你的生计而有些则可能让你的生活值得过下去。顺便说一句，如果你喜欢这样的内容，请订阅我每周二发送的免费时事通讯。
One insight, one tool, one practice. I love writing it. All right. The next advice we want to ignore is the one you've heard a million times. You think money buys happiness? Absolutely not.
一个见解，一个工具，一个练习。我喜欢写它。好吧。下一个我们想忽略的建议是那个你已经听过无数次的。你认为金钱能买到快乐吗？绝对不行。
They say money can't buy money can't buy money can't buy happiness. I think money can change your life. The question is do you know what you need to
他们说金钱买不到买不到金钱买不到幸福。我认为金钱可以改变你的生活。问题是你是否知道你需要做什么
When I was younger back in Mumbai, India, my dad was very good at losing money. He lost all his money so quickly. And I had gotten into a university in the US. It was a full scholarship program, but I didn't have enough money to buy even the airline ticket.
我年轻的时候在孟买，印度，我爸爸非常擅长亏钱。他很快就输光了所有的钱。而我考上了美国的一所大学。那是一个全额奖学金项目，但我连机票的钱都不够。
I couldn't afford it and neither could my dad. I remember him feeling helpless and defeated. He went door to door to his neighbors and begged and borrowed money from all of them for me.
我负担不起，我爸爸也负担不起。我记得他感到无助和挫败。他挨家挨户地去找邻居向他们所有人乞求、借钱来帮我。
H and yeah, I bought a one-way ticket from Bombay to Boston that changed my life forever. Money is the difference between feeling trapped and having a choice. Is not about wanting more, it's about needing less.
嗯，没错，我买了一张从孟买到波士顿的单程票那永远改变了我的人生。金钱就是困顿束缚与拥有选择之间的区别。不是关于想要更多，而是关于需要更少。
So then why do people keep saying money can't buy happiness? Because that's true, too, in a way. We all know people who have plenty of money and they're still miserable. But that doesn't mean money did nothing for them.
那么为什么人们总是说金钱买不到幸福？因为在某种程度上，这也是真的。我们都认识一些很有钱的人可他们依然痛苦不堪。但这并不意味着钱对他们毫无作用。
It just means that something else is still missing in their lives. Ask a key question. What do you want the money to change? If the answer is debt or safety or freedom or time with your loved ones, then yes, money can be very good at that.
这只是说明还有其他什么东西在他们生活中依然缺失。问一个关键问题。你想让钱改变什么？如果答案是债务、安全感或自由或是与你所爱之人共度的时光，那么是的，钱非常擅长这些。
But if you feel like you need more money so you can buy a fancy car, for example, just remember what the Beatles said, money can't buy you love. And by the way, you can find this video podcast also on Spotify now.
但如果你觉得你需要更多钱这样你就能买一辆豪车，举个例子，只需记住披头士说过的话，金钱买不到爱。顺便说一下，你现在也可以在Spotify上找到这个视频播客。
You can watch it or you can listen to it on your commute or your walk. So I'll see you there, too. Now, speaking of love, let's go to our next pointless advice. Some proven techniques to attract your soulmate.
你可以在通勤时观看或收听它或者散步时。所以我也在那儿见你。现在，说到爱情，让我们进入下一个毫无意义的建议。一些经过验证的吸引灵魂伴侣的技巧。
is your soulmate. Find your soulmate. You can always find the right person, but that does not mean you'll learn how to love them. A soulmate is easy to dream about, but a roommate is very hard to deal with.
是你的灵魂伴侣。找到你的灵魂伴侣。你总能找到对的人，但这并不意味着你会学会如何去爱他们。灵魂伴侣很容易梦想成真，但室友却非常难相处。
And all soulmates have to eventually become your roommates. I remember when I met the woman who I fell in love with. We spent years together before getting married and we used to work on how to handle disagreements.
而所有的灵魂伴侣最终都必须成为你的室友。我记得当我遇到那个我爱上的女人时。我们在一起多年后才结婚我们曾经努力研究如何处理分歧。
A couple can learn a lot about a relationship from how they repair it. And she was better at all of it than I was. Today, she's still my best friend and also still my wife, by the way, just to be clear.
一对伴侣可以从中学到很多关于关系的道理从他们如何修复关系。而她在所有这些方面都比我做得更好。今天，她仍然是我最好的朋友，也仍然是我的妻子，顺便说一句，澄清一下。
But your partner, whether you found them at the soulmate store or not, cannot read your mind. They won't always know when you need your space and when you need a hug. They won't know when you want a solution and when you just need to talk.
但你的伴侣，无论你是不是在灵魂伴侣商店找到他们的，都无法读懂你的心思。他们不会总是知道何时你需要自己的空间以及何时你需要一个拥抱。他们不会知道什么时候你是想要一个解决方案什么时候你只是需要倾诉。
They'll get it wrong and so will you. That doesn't automatically mean you chose the wrong person. That's the missing half. If you go looking for someone who's able to check every single box on your long list, who would never argue with you and would love you unconditionally forever, well, that person does not exist.
他们会弄错，你也会。这并不自动意味着你选错了人。那就是缺失的另一半。如果你去寻找一个能够满足你长长清单上每一项条件的人，一个永远不会和你争吵并且会永远无条件爱你的人，那么，这个人并不存在。
Choose someone who will help you become a better human being and pay attention to what they're becoming too because both of you are changing every day. Now, the last piece of advice might be the hardest one to let go of.
选择那个能帮助你成为更好的人同时也要关注他们正在成为什么样的人因为你们两个人每天都在改变。现在，最后一条建议可能是最难放下的。
You are who you are. People don't change cuz you are who you are. We all change so much. What makes you think we're done? I was a homeless teen, a monk in training, a world traveling musician.
你就是你。人们不会改变，因为你就是你。我们都变化太大了。你凭什么觉得我们已经结束了？我曾是个无家可归的少年，一个修行中的僧侣，一个环游世界的音乐家。
I was a mathematician, went to MIT, became an investment banker on Wall Street, a CEO. Now I'm a board member, investor, mentor, and I'm still adjusting to this this new creator version of me.
我曾是一名数学家，去了麻省理工学院，在华尔街成为了一名投资银行家，一位首席执行官。现在我是董事会成员，投资者、导师，我仍在适应这个全新的创作者身份的我。
Now, which of those identities felt like it was me? All of them. And none of them. Every version of you feels permanent from the inside until it changes. There was a study published in nature medicine in 2021 and it showed that every second roughly 4 million cells in your body die and are replaced and you don't feel a thing but it's always and it is forever morphing.
那么，这些身份中哪一个感觉才像我呢？所有版本。又无一版本。每一个版本的你，从内部感受都像是永恒的，直到它改变。2021年《自然医学》上发表了一项研究研究表明，每秒钟你体内大约有400万个细胞死亡并被替换，而你毫无感觉但它始终存在，并且永远在变化。
And in today's day and age, that idea of morphing identity matters more than ever because AI is changing the very idea of our work, our worth, how we think, how we learn, create, communicate, and even who we turn to when we're lonely and confused.
在当今这个时代，这种身份转变的理念比以往任何时候都更加重要因为人工智能正在改变我们对工作的根本认知，我们的价值，我们的思维方式，我们的学习方式，创造、交流的方式，甚至是我们求助的对象当我们感到孤独和困惑时。
Pew research found that one in five American adults under 30 already use AI chatbots for emotional support and companionship. This is not some software upgrade happening outside of us.
皮尤研究发现，五分之一30岁以下的美国成年人已经使用AI聊天机器人来获取情感支持和陪伴。这不是某种发生在我们外部的软件升级。
The arrival of AI means that we're asked to constantly upgrade our internal software, the one that lives right here. There is an old story about a traveler who reaches a dangerous river and he wants to cross it.
人工智能的到来意味着我们被要求不断升级我们内在的软件，那个就住在这里的软件。有一个关于一位旅行者的古老故事他来到一条危险的河边，想要渡过去。
So he builds a raft all by himself and he crosses the river. Then he's about to walk away and he looks back at the raft and he thinks, "Man, this raft was so incredibly useful to me."
于是他自己造了一个木筏，渡过了河。然后他正要走开他回头看了看木筏，心想，“天哪，这个木筏对我太有用了。”
So he lifts it onto his shoulders and starts walking. But the very thing that helped him before now makes the rest of his journey way harder. And that's what we do with our own past.
于是他把木筏扛在肩上，开始走。但恰恰是之前帮助过他的这个东西现在让他剩下的旅程变得更加艰难。而我们对自己的过去也是如此。
We cling to it. We keep carrying what once carried us. Sure, you can be grateful for your past, but it's not a weight that you have to carry. You can put it down because you don't know all the people you're capable of becoming.
我们紧紧抓着它不放。我们一直背负着曾经支撑我们的东西。当然，你可以对过去心怀感激，但这不是你必须背负的重担。你可以放下它，因为你不知道所有你有可能成为的人。
Thank you and I love
谢谢，我爱
